Dining Out With Gluten-Free Children

Celiac.com 02/17/2022 - A true luxury in life is to have someone else prepare your meals. Gluten-free children are lucky to have parents as their personal chefs! The responsibility of having to prepare every single thing your kids eat can become overwhelming—it is very important to find a few convenient places where you can eat out!

Our family has two older celiac children and even as veterans of the gluten-free diet these challenges are present every single time we try some place new. We find that when looking for a gluten-free meal one must consider a variety of venues: Fine dining, mid-priced dining, fast food, eating out of town, social events, and overnight kids camps.

Fine Dining

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When our family eats out we like fine dining options that involve a chef preparing fresh food from scratch—for us this is the easiest option. It may be uncomfortable for some people to go back into the kitchen and talk to the chef, but I find that most are very accommodating and pride themselves on being able to serve those with special diets. Take a deep breath and go talk to them—you will be glad you did—and be sure to thank them appropriately for their extra efforts.

The key to success is a friendly attitude on your part. Chefs love to go the extra mile for a friendly customer. It is always better to call ahead during off-peak hours and ask to speak to the chef rather than to just show up during a busy time. Consider early reservations, as it is easier to talk to the chef at 6pm rather than at 7:30pm, although it is always better to call ahead on the day that you plan to dine at the restaurant to ask questions.

When calling, find out when the primary chef will be in and available to meet. Once you have reached the right person, there is no need to go into a lengthy description of what it means to be gluten intolerant. It is enough to say that your child cannot eat gluten (a protein in wheat and other related grains). I usually say that if my children eat gluten they will not feel well for a few hours. I also mention that if they accidentally ingest gluten it is not life threatening. These two comments often help break the ice and set the tone for a positive, to-the-point conversation.

Focus your discussion with the chef—talk about what your kids generally like to eat. You don’t want to go through a lot of different menu items just include the ones that you think you could order. It helps to know something about how the dishes are prepared so you can knowledgeably discuss the various ingredients and preparation methods used.

Be sure to mention that gluten is hidden in many ingredients, and as you discuss the ingredients in the selected entrée you can get more specific with your questions. For example, many chefs will not know that gluten may be hidden in sour cream, but they may be happy to get the container and read the ingredient label with you, however large food-service containers do not always include an ingredient label. Often you will find that only a few minor ingredient adjustments are all that is needed to make a dish gluten-free. While fine dining is our favorite option— it is not always available or practical.

Mid-priced Dining

Chain restaurants or those owned by a large restaurant group run like finely oiled machines. They order their food in large quantities and to exact specifications. Often the food is frozen and ready to be quickly cooked and served. Hamburger patties are not always 100% beef, fillers can be used, and the boxes in which they come often contain no ingredient information. Many items are breaded and ready to fry. In general, to get a truly gluten-free meal in these restaurants poses a great challenge.

Recently though, positive inroads have been made in this area. With the help of national celiac patient support groups, some restaurants such as PF Chang’s and Outback Steakhouse now offer gluten-free menus. We visit PF Chang’s several times a month and have found them to be excellent and quite accommodating. Patronize businesses that make it easy for those on special diets and let them know how much you appreciate them! There are also commercial restaurant guides available that include safe items from many of these chains.

We recently visited Disneyland where I spoke with Chef Chris Justesen about all of the gluten-free options we had throughout the park—it was amazing. After this discussion we knew exactly where to go and what to ask for—it couldn’t have been easier. Plan to visit during off-peak days for less confusion when ordering your food—you will also have the added benefit of short lines for the rides. We made reservations at Disneyland’s Storytellers Café after learning that they stock gluten-free pizza crusts and offer a “make your own pizza bar”, the kids loved this special attention to their needs. This restaurant offered many other gluten-free options for children as well as adults.

When looking for a mid-priced meal consider small, family owned businesses where you can talk to the cook (usually the owner) about ingredients. You may find there are only a few dishes you can eat, but they will be made to order. Your options may be limited due to the size of the kitchen—perhaps there will be only one deep fryer and one griddle—but if possible these types of establishments will often do their best to accommodate your special requests. Most of the same courtesies apply here as in fine dining, such as calling ahead and not visiting during peak hours.

At some of these small restaurants customers are actually encouraged to bring in their own gluten-free pasta or pizza crusts—which is a real bonus. Cultivate some relationships—you may surprise yourself!

Fast Food

The internet offers a wealth of information on fast food restaurants, log onto the many Web sites to see what items are gluten-free. When ordering your food remember to keep it simple! For many food service workers a special request can be challenging, if your request is met with a blank stare you should generally seek out who is in charge and ask for their help. When we order a gluten-free hamburger patty we always ask for it to be moved from the grill to a box immediately and remind the cook that it cannot touch any bread along the way. I call it “meat in a box” and the message is easily conveyed even when dealing with someone with limited English capabilities.

In sandwich shops you can often watch your food being prepared. You can ask the food workers to put on clean gloves and to make your “sandwich” minus the bread in a bowl like a salad. Ask them to take the ingredients from fresh bins that have not been potentially cross contaminated by bread crumbs. We do this at Subway and have found that it is easy for them to make such adjustments even when they are busy.

Eating Out of Town

Before your trip print out a list of restaurant locations near your hotel (such as PF Chang’s) and know what you can order from fast food restaurants by checking their Web sites. Be sure to enjoy the local cuisine at a nice restaurant as well. If you are traveling to a new city and arrive there late, try to pre-plan where you can eat. Call in advance with questions about gluten-free food and ask about the hours and days of operation.

Connect with the local gluten-free support group in the city you plan to visit and find out which restaurants there best understand the gluten-free diet. This will save you plenty of time and narrow down the field.

Social Events

We recently attended a social event at a very busy restaurant where we thought the meal would be gluten free due to my advance preparation. The catch was that all of my questions were directed to a restaurant manager because nobody in the kitchen could speak English. The manager checked and re-checked on various issues and everything sounded fine. Ultimately, we had to leave early because one child became sick and when we got back to the hotel the other child joined the chorus. We will never again have the children eat at a place where we cannot speak English directly to the person in charge of the kitchen. In hind sight we should have stopped at McDonald’s on the way to the event and fed the kids. They would have enjoyed it just as much and we would not have had to worry.

Many social events have a prearranged menu. You can find out the menu in advance and talk to the chef/cook ahead of time. There have been many occasions where the chef has prepared something special for my children or has had something on hand from another event that is gluten-free. Often their meal is even better than what everyone else is eating.

If you find that after all of your advance efforts it is too difficult to find a suitable meal—plan to eat before you go to the event and understand that being with good friends and family is really the top priority of such events.

Overnight Kids Camps

Fortunately there are several summer camps for kids that the Gluten Intolerance Group oversees. Many other gluten-free and special diet camps are also catching on across the USA. My daughter attends a camp every summer where the cook is now very aware of the gluten-free diet. I am sure this is due to the education efforts that I and others have provided to the camp cook. In the past I have met with the camp cook to review the weekly menu, and together we read labels and decided which items I would provide—generally items that they don’t have time to duplicate such as pizza, baked goods, and bread.

When I drop my daughter off at camp she brings a copy of the camp menu with her that has the unsafe items marked, and notes regarding safe substitutions. The cook keeps one gluten-free shelf in the pantry, the refrigerator, and the freezer to help keep things separate. The first year I actually went to camp to go through everything, and in the following years I was able to simply call the camp cook on the phone to organize things. Be sure to discuss cross-contamination issues in the kitchen. We bring our own colander, a small fry pan, and cutting board—all with my daughter’s name on them. In camp kitchens the cookware is super-sized so it helps to offer to bring these items for individual preparation.

Be as accommodating as you can, offer to provide an entire meal pre-frozen such as a pizza or lasagna. When they see you making great efforts the camp cook is very likely to follow your lead. Remember they are cooking meals for hundreds of kids—and you need them to be your ally. Don’t worry about the fact that the money you spent on the camp was to cover all food expenses. The extra effort the staff makes on your child’s behalf more than makes up for the cost of the regular camp foods that your child won’t be eating. It was worth the effort to figure out a way for my daughter to attend camp, and the cook was eager to find a way to make it work.

Try It You’ll Like It

If you have been hesitant to eat out with your children—give it a try. You will be pleasantly surprised with the results now that you have some basic knowledge about hot to approach each situation. You will also be surprised at how much you will enjoy eating out again— and at just how accommodating most restaurants and chefs can be.