I'm new here, just heard about this place. I too have this embarassing problem. I have been using an item called BUTT PASTE (yea that's really the name of it) It's tanish in color though but doesn't stain. Wipes off eaiser then Desitin, and soothes. But I really can't help with the WHY of this question, I am still now just in the diagnosis stages of this...