dani nero

I'm not sure about it yet, but I think that the cashews were what was making me aggressively irritated. I haven't had them for a week and was feeling fine, then had a few this morning and snapped at hubs when he got home from work, then had anxiety for most of the day. If it really was the cashews, would they be having this effect so quickly? I ate them at 10am, and got irritated at around 4pm, then anxious after that.

I am also wondering.. WHY cashews?!

On a side note, I was feeling so hopeless and couldn't take the fatigue and lousiness any longer, so I called the clinic a week ago, and asked them if that appointment I took some time in march (which they said was going to be in april, and then somewhere in may) was ever going to happen.. and it wasn't going to happen until June because "the queue was really long" X( So we complained so much until they gave me a squeeze-in appointment on the 23rd.

Now that it's a squeeze in appointment, I feel that the doctor will be under so much pressure that I will have to make the best of what little time I'm going to have to explain my problems to him / her.. and what if they tell me nothing's wrong.. then I'll have to wait another quarter of a year to get another appointment with another clinic X(

Just a week left and I'm completely anxious about it, so I've developed a plan. Regardless of the test results, I'll be talking the doc into giving me suitable probiotics that are gluten and lactose free.. and I'll be telling my family that I've been diagnosed.

Seriously - women are VERY picky.

Part of it is that women are picky and part of it is that our subculture also has its own issues... the lesbian community has a particular ideal that IMO is probably hard for a lot of women to live up to - we have to be healthy and fit and badass and independent and professional; you have to be "equal" and I'm really only equal to someone who has a history of being sick as well, or has other issues. I found that men pretty much took me as I was and also, my body type (very retro curvy; I'm built like Joan from "Mad Men") was attractive to many men, whereas it doesn't really fit the skinny or athletic androgynous lesbian ideal. I dress femininely not because I'm "femme" but because skirts and dresses are the best look for my body type and I feel confident this way.

I'm kind of discouraged with regard to dating, because all I really seem to attract are people whose lives are even more of a mess than mine is. At least I'm trying to fix my mess. The reason I'm NOT professional is because I've literally spent most of my life being sick (in ways that manifested via neuro issues). I'm in school right now with the idea of becoming a therapist, but I've had a lot of setbacks on the way to discovering I had a gluten problem.

I am so tired of the snootiness I encounter from women who "have it all together" that it's almost preferable to me to be with someone who has had some kind of challenge to surmount.

You might be happier focusing on the things you like to do and who you like to be rather than what others would accept you as. Wear a pretty dress and go out for a big juicy steak. You actually need someone who will like who you are in your life, so do what makes you happy, and if someone likes it, they're very welcome to share that life with you.

Oh, that's awful about the cashews since they are low sal.

We have wind, super dry weather, and a fire south of us. Air quality sucks big lemons today. Even the dog is depressed.

I tried one cookie a few minutes ago and didn't bloat up. Maybe it's a volume thing? Still makes me wonder...,the antihistimine may be suppressing it, too.

Perhaps try them on an empty stomach first thing in the morning? Just a thought. What else is in them?

Maybe it's the same thing as when I was eating the sweet salsa chicken alone, which bloated me, but not when I added the unsweet pealed pears to the mix?

That's not good :-/ I really hope it's the allergy and not the oats, because it would be a shame to cross them off your menu. Are you going to try them again soon?

So many people are having their allergies act up with this painful pollen season.

I think I'm having a reaction to cashews as well.. I get really edgy whenever I have some. Awful anxiety and really bad irritability. I think they might have been causing most of my problems but I'm not sure.

Good for you :-) Hope it keeps up!

Congratulations :-) Are you able to tlerate dairy or lactose by the way?

Aww.. this can't be easy :-(

I always knew gals were more picky than men, but not to this extent. There have to be other gals like you somewhere, maybe in a different town? Look for someone in a town you don't mind moving to maybe?

I do feel your frustration! The country I grew up in didn't have a single guy I could see myself having a life with! Women were expected to do everything in the house even if they were working, and the guy wouldn't lift a finger in the house.. so spoiled! I thought I would end up being single for the rest of my life, but I met my hubs on World of Warcraft! We both liked gaming and art.. which was why we hit it off directly. He was always interested in whatever I drew :-P so maybe it would be easier for you to meet a lady who also likes meat in a place where things revolve around cooking?

The world is huge.. if the ladies where you live have a thing for vegan, don't dismiss the possibility of finding someone elsewhere.

It took me a while to figure out why my 7yo dd kept holding her breath at various times in the grocery store, then it dawned on me--the bread aisle and the baking aisle

HAHAHAHAHA :-D She's so cute!

Allright, I am inappropriately resurrecting this thread because I KNOW there's some more good stories out there! Come on boys and girls, share with the class! What crazy a** **it have you done in the name of gluten?!?

Well it's a really good read! I'm glad you revived it :-)

I gave my bunny a bath (shampooed him three times) when I found out his pellets contained gluten. His fur got really poofy and even a little curly after the bath. Bunnies aren't supposed to be showered, the poor thing!

And a few days ago, at a barbeque, our friends gave my husband a chili spice powder for his meat, and I shouted out with my eyes wide open "WAIT!" before he had a chance to put any on his steak.. they all looked really surprised at my reaction. I told my hubs that he should sprinkle that under the table in case it contained gluten, because the wind might have carried some of the powder onto my steak!

I would be really interested in talking to the managers or whoever in charge of these decisions at few of the restaurants that do it consistently well. I'd like to find out why and how.

I find it's generally the better restaurants that do gluten-free well; upcoming chefs... If they use fresh ingredients it's very easy to do gluten-free (except bakeries). I find it's an attitude, a general feel to the place - pride in what they do and a passion for food perhaps that seems to be in common, at least on the surface?

I suspect the effort and training at a restaurant that does gluten-free well trains their employees well in general, and doing gluten-free is just easier.

Maybe when the restaurants are owned by a family or a food fanatic who take pride in offering really good food for everyone. It would be very a very interesting study :-)

I just have a bento box :-O I feel so unprepared!

how were your mood and humor though? were you having any negative feelings or irritability?

Life really sucks for us sometimes. Maybe a little more than sometimes :-( Sorry you had to put up with that type of attitude. For me it's my dad who can be awful.. he acts as if the food I eat is uneatable.

*hug hug hug*

I think of gluten as salmonella or any other problem encountered by handling raw meat.

That said, restaurants are trained to handle raw meat and most of the time do not kill people.

So, it is very possible to train people to take proper precautions. Willingness is another issue.

If you eat out at all you already know there are good-bet restaurants, bad-bet restaurants for gluten-free. Personally, I won't go near some places other gluten-free's eat at because I think the risk is insane; others, I'm more than happy to patronize.

So I don't think all restaurants should attempt gluten-free. I think those that do should understand what they're doing. I think the restaurants that are good at it will proceed and those that aren't, won't. The only caveat is government intervention.

Personally, I wouldn't have ordered Dominos even if the cc wasn't made so public - I would have ASSUMED cc based on the kitchen setup and nature of the business, and the fact that the pizzas are assembled on site. Ditto for Subway unless they change their line. I have eaten at ONE Chipotle (shared line) but that Chipotle does a fabulous job at gluten-free (I assume because it's a small town and they get lots of practice) and they change out utensils and pull from new bins.

Anyway, I think we will be in for some interesting times - I don't see how the bad press on Dominos is D-Day. Someone was going to be Dominos - it was inevitable.

California Puzza Kitchen and Cheesecake Factory have already pulled gluten-free menus because they can't really do it. Personally, I'm glad they pulled them if they can't do it. What worries me is that more restaurants may decide to "settle" for that Amber rating instead of trying to create a real gluten-free prep and cook area. But quite frankly, it could go either way. Amber could be good for gluten-free or it could be the worst thing. Ever. Time will tell.

But I can say, for now, I won't eat at Amber restaurants. It's my "no" list. Domino's is just a joke, IMO. All they did was formulate a new crust - They aren't even TRYING to do gluten-free.

The difference is that salmonella would affect 100% of the customers, while gluten.. let's say.. err I don't have a number, but let's say 30%? The Restaurants can make more than enough money without the required extra training and special prep methods and equipment focusing on the other 70% who are not gluten intolerant, and without having to worry about any lawsuits. Not taking precautions against salmonella would put them out of business directly, while gluten only takes the celiacs away. I don't see them caring more about our problems unless 50% of the population have celiac.. or perhaps if the owners are celiac and have a desire to go the extra mile for our sake.

I actually don't eat out anymore .. I got glutened too many times, and now I don't bother anymore because people aren't aware enough about celiac safety, and I'm usually too hungry or too embarrassed to have to explain to them why they have to change their gloves or wash their hands.. but I still have to say that suing the restaurants for making mistakes is just silly. If the staff members don't have celiac, then their minds aren't trained to be able to prevent themselves from making mistakes, specifically when they are doing things that they do 100 times a day and their brains are on autodrive. They don't live with it, and therefor not used to it, and making these mistakes is so easy in in a stressful and rushed restaurant environment.

I'm sorry to say this (I have been sortof a pessimist lately), but it's not possible for restaurants to offer a 100% safe service, and not all people are as understanding as we are.. they are going to sue, and I therefor conclude that less and less businesses will bother with providing us with their services. We're too expensive and risky to accommodate!

Thank you for all your replies. I found them wise and insightful. Perhaps one must have a child, or be unable to have one, in order to be able to know what life is like without them? I never meant that I would want them or love them any less though, just that I didn't wish any of what I am going through on them (because we live in a world where we have to work so hard to make others understand as well as keep ourselves safe from contamination), and then add tourettes to the mix. I really have no trouble with a gluten-free diet, but I do have a problem with working too hard to be taken seriously.

I completely understand and agree with the possibility that my glutened-mindset is playing a big part in how I am feeling right now. Thanks so much for pointing that out and for being here for me. No more thinking about this until I'm sure I'm not under the influence of anything :-)

You're very special people.

Thank you for all the links by the way. I went through all of them.

It would be nice if his problem was caused by gluten. I did have thoughts that maybe he's also Gluten Intolerant since he has cramps and diarrhea around once or twice a month maybe.. I haven't counted. There is no way my husband would agree to going gluten free however. He was completely against it when I suggested he gets tested. It took a lot of mouth-yapping from my part to get him and my family to understand celiac.. and they don't want to accept it because they don't want to let go of their precious foods.

For sure he'll tell me that not everything has to do with gluten and think I'm over-doing it.

I told them I won't force it onto them and that I'm willing to help if one day they feel really sick. Nothing more I can do.

This is the suckiest part about celiac. People don't believe it if they don't see it.

The thing with having celiac is that although I'm happy that I know how to keep myself healthy now, I'm still not happy. Probably because I spent 70% of my life having depression and anxiety, but that will not have anything to do with my children (if I have them) since I'll make sure they get tested frequently.

I can't pinpoint the problem but it's mostly how hard I have to work on other people. Convincing them, explaining to them, and trying hard to be taken seriously. I don't wish this unhappiness on others, specifically my own kids.

I know I'm going to love my children even if they have a multitude of conditions, but I'm not a strong person.. How am I supposed to help them when they are depressed about being different.

Just found out hubs has tourettes. Very mild but it's there :-/ I don't love him any less, but what kindof children might we be having exactly? I'm not sure how to process this, but I thought it would be unfair giving them celiac and g6pd as it is, and now tourettes too. I don't know.. Am I being over dramatic? I do feel like freaking out.

Does anyone have any idea what the % to passing celiac is?

Typical

Everyone gets their own set of symptoms. You should keep a journal to document everything. It'll help you keep track of your reactions, how long they last and so on.

Aww.. sorry you're not feeling well :-( Don't beat yourself up over it, s---- happens!

Hope it doesn't last long for you! I've read from other members here that the best you can do is drink plenty of water to get everything out of your system asap.

gluten-free to me means eating more whole foods, less processed foods, and making more things from scratch.

To everyone else a gluten-free diet is a diet that excludes foods containing gluten, but does not necessarily exclude processed foods.. which is why I got confused :-) We're on the same page in principles, but not in definitions ;-)

I lost 2 pants sizes when I went gluten free a few weeks ago. I have recently started eating more chocolate and sweets, so my weight lose has slowed but if you notice cutting out gluten, usually means eating altogether healthier, no matter if you are gluten intolerant or not.

I'm afraid I can't agree with that. In my opinion, eating gluten-free doesn't necessary mean you're eating healthier. Gluten-free bread and pasta, as well as any gluten-free processed foods are still.. processed and will have the same toll on the body as any wheat-based processed foods.

Eating healthier means eating natural foods (that don't require a label in order to know what they contain), and not overdosing on sugar, saturated fats, chemicals, coloring, preservatives, salt and so on. In my opinion that is.

There are people who have a cola and snickers for breakfast, yet are slim because their body type can handle it. That doesn't make them healthy people. I just don't measure health by weight alone.

I lost one dress size from going off gluten, but I think that was just the swelling caused by the gluten going away. After that any weight I lost was due to not being able to eat anything, but not because I was gluten-free. I know that if I start eating lots of carbs again all the weight will come back.